Boundaries are limitations on what we will or will not accept from others. Like a boundary set by a fence with a gate, relational boundaries allow positive things into our environment, and keep negative things out.
A boundary consists of an expectation and ensuing consequences. Some common workplace documents that reflect boundaries include:
In the workplace there are many behaviors that are expected to be performed in a certain way, and most people behave accordingly. For example, most people will:
However, people with difficult personalities tend to disregard customary expectations, which results in:
When this happens repeatedly, the person who is affected by the behaviors needs to create and communicate intentional boundaries. There is a process for setting boundaries, as follows:
This lesson explores the process of developing healthy boundaries.